With Individuals

Somewhere inside, you know that joy and peace are possible—yet right now they feel out of reach. Like a pair of skilled detectives, we will uncover the unprocessed pain and unconscious beliefs that block your access to happiness. Together, we’ll:

• Identify the Origins of Your Inner Critic
  • Track where that relentless voice started (family messages, early experiences, cultural pressures)
  • Name the specific beliefs (“I’m not good enough,” “I don’t deserve connection”) that keep you stuck

• Use EMDR & IFS to Process and Integrate
  • Employ EMDR to safely reprocess traumatic or painful memories, reducing their emotional intensity
  • Use IFS to build a compassionate relationship with your parts—especially the self-critic—so you no longer feel controlled by them

• Develop Social‐Confidence Skills
  • Practice exposing yourself gradually to feared social situations in a supportive way
  • Strengthen communication skills and assertiveness so feedback—positive or negative—no longer feels like an attack

• Build Deep Self-Compassion and Self-Esteem
  • Learn to challenge and replace self-critical thoughts with balanced, truthful perspectives
  • Cultivate mindful self‐acceptance so you can connect more fully with yourself and others

By the end of treatment, you will know yourself in a whole new way: able to show up authentically, tolerate uncertainty in social situations, and trust that you are worthy of love and belonging.

With Couples

When anxiety or low self-esteem interfere with your relationship—making one partner withdraw, the other overthink every comment, or both of you avoid intimacy—it can feel like love is slipping away. Using Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), we will:

• Break Unhelpful Cycles
  • Identify negative interaction patterns (e.g., one partner’s withdrawal triggering the other’s pursuance)
  • Track how individual anxiety or insecurity shows up in your communication (“Are they judging me?” “Am I saying something stupid?”)

• Explore Underlying Needs & Fears
  • Uncover the vulnerable emotions (fear of abandonment, shame, unworthiness) beneath defensive positions
  • Learn to share these raw emotions safely so you both truly understand each other’s internal experience

• Rebuild Safety & Trust
  • Practice new ways of responding to vulnerability—listening with empathy, reflecting back feelings, and reassuring each other
  • Create a secure emotional bond that makes it easier to navigate daily stressors and deeper conflicts

• Ignite Connection & Intimacy
  • Move from interactions based on anxiety or self-protection to moments of genuine closeness
  • Address issues around sex and intimacy, LGBTQIA+ identity, or life transitions that have felt overwhelming
  • Develop rituals of connection that keep your relationship resilient

Together, we’ll help you break through the patterns that keep you both stuck and rediscover the safety, passion, and authenticity that brought you together in the first place.

Why EMDR, IFS and EFT Matter

• EMDR
  Targets the distressing memories and beliefs (e.g., “I’m socially inadequate”) that fuel anxiety and shame. By reprocessing these memories in a safe, structured way, EMDR reduces their emotional charge and helps you integrate more adaptive beliefs.

• IFS
  Helps you understand that your inner critic is just one part of you—often formed to protect you from pain. By meeting that part with curiosity and compassion, you reduce its influence and restore your core Self as the leader of your internal system.

• EFT for Couples
  Focuses on the emotional bond between you and your partner. By identifying and reshaping the interaction patterns driven by fear and self‐protection, EFT fosters secure attachment. This transforms conflict into connection, making it easier to navigate any issue—whether infidelity, parenting stress, or intimacy concerns.
  

If you’re ready to turn down the volume on that critical voice—individually or as a couple—and reclaim confidence, trust, and connection, I’d love to support you. Reach out today to schedule a free 15-minute consultation and see how we might work together to transform your life.

Specialties

Anxiety & Depression, Co-parenting, Coping Skills, Divorce, EMDR, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Family Conflict, Family Systems, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Infidelity, Internal Family Systems (IFS), LGBTQIA+ Care, Life Transitions, Peer Relationships, Relationship Issues, Self-Esteem, Sexual Abuse & Assault, Stress, Trauma & PTSD, Anger Management, Parenting

Session Locations

Bloomfield, NJ, Telehealth: NJ & NY

Populations

Adults, Couples

Availability

Sunday – Thursday, Evenings, Weekends

Languages Spoken

English